Nothing Prepares You For The Day Your Life Will Change
Nothing prepares you for the time your life will change. When it happens, you likely wont be looking for it.
I know this because it happened to me. I lost jobs and my relationships — sometimes on the same day. Although I was largely the cause, when it happened I was definitely NOT ready for it.
I had to admit some tough things. Number #1 was if I don’t sort it out now, it will get worse down the line. I needed an income. I needed someone to talk to. I needed courage to deal with the fact that I had neither.
If it was going to get better it was going to be up to me…
I realized that it’s not the problem that’s the problem, its how you SEE the problem. You need to see it correctly before you can solve it.
Long before Michael Mack’s Power Esteem program became available I took the long road to get there, but eventually surprised myself. By re-aligning the way I looked at everything I was able to change things. By reading and studying (even alone, on my own) I was able to find the courage and resolve to move ahead in my life.
Today I am ttally fulfilled and I have my own business–in fact I have several.
I decided to share what I learned with other people. If I can help even one person it will be worth the effort. I read a lot of psychological/motivational stuff that was difficult to get any value from. It was either clinical and technical, or full of ‘you can do it…’ cheerleading stuff.
Neither really helped me.
I had to dig DEEPER, and I had to get info from VARIETY of places (psychological text, human interest, video, documentary, biographies, friends’ advice, group and individual counseling, meditating, etc). I took all of this andused it to ask myself the right questions.
I decided that it wasn’t working to listen to someone else who didn’t know me try to give me ANSWERS. The answers didn’t work because they didn’t know enough about where I was in my life. Once I had the ability to ask myself the right QUESTIONS I found the answers for myself.
I didn’t believe this at first, but now I do: In the highest life-state you will welcome problems as challenges. The real question isn’t “what’s the problem”, but “how’s your life state”.
Some people actually seek out ‘the problem’ (surfers, mountaineers, etc). They want the rush of getting through challenges. The ‘horrible stuff’, like losing relationships and jobs, is just part of life, you don’t control it.
We just need strength for the change that is inevitable.
Problems are just facts. Our attitude is what makes us suffer. If we feel bigger than the problem we cope, if we feel smaller we suffer. Many times problems just reveal our weakness, and that is what we can’t handle, that is what makes us unhappy.
Somehow, for me, it turned out BETTER that these things happened to me.
You life state is not fixed, it changes moment to moment, (like waking up and feeling better the next morning). And the path to understanding is not a straight one.
Everyone has wisdom, courage and compassion inside of them, they just need to remember how to use them. You can use them like weights, to get stronger and stronger. Your adversity is just the resistance that makes you grow.
Expecting to win or fail is just habit of thinking. We are in charge of this habit. Don’t get me wrong, getting fit and staying fit takes effort. But in the long run it DEFINITELY pays off.
Perseverance for the sake of good wins, try not to accept your natural, negative way of doing things.
So, to summarize (even if you don’t believe it yet):
Perseverance wins.
Problems are good.
What matters is life-state.
What we need are wisdom, courage and compassion.
You have a choice. When you feel you cant handle something, you can chose to give up, or you can try to turn poison into medicine (even if it’s not your fault).
I do believe in one thing, pessimism sucks away your life force.
Recently I learned about Michael Mack’s extraordinary program Power Esteem that gets you directly to what took me years to uncover. I think you should take a look at it if you need, well, need what we all need.
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